Tomorrow is the wedding day! I’ve been reflecting a lot over the last few days about my life leading up to this moment. I’ve been thinking about when I was younger and all I wanted to do was get married. I was so young then and really didn’t know what I wanted out of life. I also wasn’t a very strong person. I allowed people to treat me poorly and as a consequence, tended to date men who weren’t very good to me. The funny thing is that without those relationships, I wouldn’t have found Jamie. Each of my failed relationships put me on the path that led me to him, and for that I am grateful. It’s kind of funny to say that now, but that is what maturity does to you.
One failed relationship in particular stands as the example of that path. In 1998 I made the decision to return home to California after 12 years in Utah. That was back in the heyday of chat rooms and I began chatting with people from the Bay Area. I met someone, we’ll call him X, and we began a long distance relationship. He sealed the deal on the move back to California and in March of 1999 I arrived in San Francisco. My relationship with X lasted a stormy 3 years and boy was it awful. He cheated on me, treated me like crap and made me feel I was lucky to be with him. When I finally broke up with him on the Summer of 1991, I was a new person. I made a decision that I was not going to be treated like that ever again and set out on a new path.
Thanks to X, certain things had happened that brought me closer to Jamie. I was in California, I took a job at a radio station that introduced me to Hawthorne Lane, then took a job at a preschool where his former roommate worked. If I hadn’t been with X, I’m not sure those things would have happened. Most importantly, I had a new outlook on life and dating. It took several more years of working on myself to bring me to Jamie, but in the Summer of 2006 it happened. I met Jamie.
I am being ecstatic to be marrying my true partner tomorrow. And I am also grateful for the “Ghosts of Boyfriends Past” who each taught me something about myself and brought me closer to the man who will become my husband tomorrow.
Congratulations and may all of your dreams come true!
I hope that tomorrow is just one glorious day among many that you and Jamie will share together. You deserve to be treated with respect and love. I am so glad that you have found that (and more) in Jamie.
May you and Jamie be blessed with love and abundance and may you share many special adventures together.